go ahead …make my day
i have never been comfortable with men buying me things
my mom told me nothing in life is free
and as a result i’ve always felt like if a guy gets me something he will expect something in return
like if he buys me dinner he will expect sex
or if he buys me a gift he will expect sex
or if he takes me to the movies he will expect sex
so i tend to want to split the check or pay for my own things
this is not to say guys haven’t paid for me or bought me things
i just have friends that expect a guy to shower them with gifts or who get offended if they don’t pay for their date
i’m just saying
i’ve never been comfortable with it
a lot of people see it as being polite or providing for me
but i don’t need a guy to buy me things so i’ve never wanted it
and i’d rather we go dutch. split it equally. no one person owes another
idk. is this weird?
I don’t think it’s weird. I’m the same way.
I’ve in situations where I want to split a bill at dinner but the men for I’ve dated for the most part insisted on paying.
I hate it when guys REFUSE to let me pay. It’s weird.
thefuckshitmagnet asked: you been wearing that hoodie for a good long minute now... it must be full of your pheromones... g'on ship that bitch to me, so I can pet it in my sleep.
I never told y’all about the time a woman of color (Afro-Latina in DR) tried to explain/justify a man “hollerin’” at a woman on the street by explaining to me how she met her husband that way. That it’s a “legitimate” way that people meet and fall in love.
So I asked her “How old were you when you met your husband?”
She says “I was 14 and he was 19.”
I couldn’t say another motherfuckin’ thing. I just left that shit right there. Nobody else could speak either.
I never took this woman to be very bright at all, but that pretty much solidified it for me.